During the course of this 13-week program that I’ve been doing, I’ve had so many people tell me the exact same thing I told myself before I started day 1: “There’s NO WAY I could do that!”
You guys, we have to stop telling ourselves that. YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS. Maybe you have no desire to do something–that’s fine. Maybe you’re ready for it. That’s totally cool. But to tell yourself that you are UNABLE? Nope. We need to quit that.
When you tell yourself that you “can’t” do something, you’re giving up before you’ve even begun. And even if you do start to make some action towards change or progress, you’ll eventually quit or self-sabotage–because you’re telling yourself that you’ll fail. Whatever we tell ourselves in our minds tends to become our reality–so when you tell yourself that you’re not good enough, or you’re not strong enough, or not whatever enough, that is what you truly believe, and your actions will reflect that.
When I started this 13-weeks of commitment to my health, I had to own up to the fact that when I said, “I can’t do this,” it was about being afraid to fail. I had to tell myself that I can do ANYTHING and that I am capable of amazing results. I literally wrote that on my bathroom mirror so I see it every day. I have spent a lot of time during this program changing the way I talk to myself–and look at where I am right now. I’m sticking to the program! It’s not easy, and it takes work, but I AM CAPABLE. If I had kept telling myself that I couldn’t do it, I would have quit a long time ago. I’m so thankful that didn’t happen!
I’ve had a lot of different times when my clients will tell me that my programs just don’t work for them–and that’s totally fine, because not everything works for everyone. But most of the time, when someone tells me it’s not working, I can trace it all back to their mindset at the very beginning and what they were telling themselves.
So many of us give up before we even start with the negative dialogue we have inside our own heads. The world is already negative enough–we don’t need to add to it with our own negativity toward ourselves. And even more than that, we need to practice building each other up as we work on building ourselves up.
Starting today, right this second, when you find yourself telling yourself those lies that you can’t or you’re not good enough or whatever else you tell yourself–STOP. Stop in your tracks, remind yourself that you are strong and capable of amazing things, and just keep going. Because you ARE capable of amazing things.